Be your own Relationship Coach:
Grow your Community
What I’ve learned…
That people grow through connecting with each other.
This weekend I joined an “Empathy” workshop in Oxford.
It was so enriching to share my life with others, and to hear about theirs.
In the past I thought I could “do it by myself”.
But now I see the huge difference relationships and community make. Just check this clip (cut off the end if you don’t want the ad)
Awesome, eh?
You can also find inspiration in books. This morning I was reading “Bird by Bird”, by Anne Lamott. I was touched by this passage, which reflects my experience over the weekend:
“Four people who met in one of my classes have now been meeting as a group for four years…. They’ve gone from being tense, slightly conceited, lonely people … to being very tender with one another.
They all look less slick and cool, because helping each other has made their hearts bigger. A big heart is both a clunky and delicate thing; it doesn’t protect itself and it doesn’t hide. It stands out, like a baby’s fontanel, where you can see the soul pulse through.” By Anne Lamott.
How do you nurture your relationships, and grow your community?
Hi! I’m Marien, Oxford-based relationship coach, leadership skills trainer, devoted wife. If you want to reduce me to a sound bite: I release human potential, one person at a time. Contact Relationship Coach Marien
Be your own Relationship Coach: finding Love Starts with You
Looking for a partner?
Finding love starts with you. Now. Not when you become a “perfect” being – as this is unachievable and highly unlikeable! But when you can embrace the bits that are not so nice, then you become irresistibly attractive.
Because you like yourself.
This is how you can get started. Come up with 20 of each:
1- Things that are working in your life, and that you are happy about.
This is a great exercise to prove to yourself that you don’t depend on someone else to make you happy. In return, this “self sufficiency” makes you more attractive. No one likes to feel responsible for some else’s wellbeing.
2- Things you like about yourself: physically, mentally, things you’ve done that day, or in the past.
When you like yourself, and you are happy with what you have, you become attractive to others.
3- Things you’ve done and you’re not proud of. Find out why you did them – which need of yours were you trying to meet?
Realising how your actions are only strategies to meet your needs leads to self acceptance. Once you acknowledge and accept the “not-so-nice” parts of you, you’ll like yourself more, and as you like yourself more, others will like you too.
Hi! I’m Marien, Oxford-based Life coach, leadership skills trainer, devoted wife. If you want to reduce me to a sound bite: I release human potential, one person at a time. Contact Life Coach Marien
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Hi! I’m Marien, Oxford-based relationship coach, leadership skills trainer, devoted wife. If you want to reduce me to a sound bite: I release human potential, one person at a time. Contact Relationship Coach Marien
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